Allesanda Tolomei-Hard
Spiritual Mentor - Wellness Coach - Intuitive Healer
I didn’t start out calm. I started out trying to fix everyone.
That’s when the real healing began — and my work with women took shape.
I opened Unwind Mind Body Soul in 2016 as a massage practice (I’ve been a licensed therapist since 2013). Clients would open up on the table — sharing stress, family struggles, chronic pain — and I saw the direct link between what they carried emotionally and what showed up in their bodies.
The 12-step principles had already transformed my life (I’ve been mentoring women in recovery since 2015), so I started sharing them gently during sessions. Women began setting healthier boundaries, putting their needs first, and finding lasting peace instead of temporary relief.
When chronic pain came up, I layered in Internal Family Systems (IFS)-inspired parts work — holding space for the protective parts driving perfectionism and people-pleasing. Time and again, pain lessened or vanished completely when those parts felt seen and heard.
Then I added clairvoyant energy tools — helping women clear other people’s energy from their space and reclaim their own. Suddenly they could hear their intuition clearly, without second-guessing.
All of this grew from the same belief that started my journey: the body (and soul) knows how to heal itself when given the right space and tools.
Today I guide high-achieving, heart-centered women — doctors, nurses, entrepreneurs, caregivers — who are exhausted from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and carrying everyone else’s energy. Women who are done waiting for “someday” to put themselves first.
If any of this resonates… I see you.
I worked 3 jobs, poured myself into unhealthy relationships, and numbed constant anxiety with alcohol. My own needs didn’t exist. Saying “no” felt selfish. My worth lived in what I could do for others.
Then life broke me open in ways I never expected. I lost my mom to terminal cancer in 2016. A year later, in 2017, my house burned down in a wild fire.
Everything I’d been clinging to for control was gone. I hit a bottom that left me no choice but to change from the inside out.
My Story
For years I believed that if the people I loved were okay — especially my dad, who has lived with Multiple Sclerosis my entire life — then I would finally be okay too.
What Actually Happens When We Work Together
Calm Nervous System
You wake up grounded instead of already behind.
Real Self-Love
Your worth is no longer tied to what you do for others.
Guilt-Free Boundaries
You protect your time and energy without apology.
Crystal-Clear Intuition
External validation becomes optional.
I’m a Spiritual Mentor, Wellness Coach, & Intuitive Healer
It means I blend 12-step depth psychology, clairvoyant energy readings, Internal Family Systems (IFS)-inspired somatic work, and almost a decade of hands-on bodywork to help you clear what’s not yours, hear what IS yours, and finally feel at home in your own skin.
What Does That Even Mean?
You’ll find me hiking with a cup of coffee in hand, reading Abraham Hicks, journaling at 5:30 a.m., or laughing way too loud with close friends.
Life keeps getting better — not because the outside is perfect, but because I have tools and practices to ride the waves of life with joy and peace of mind.